4 Ways To Heal From Heartache!

1. Give your heart to the Lord: The Lord has the ability to take your broken heart mend it, heal it, and restore it piece by piece. He is the Absolute Physician so by giving him your entire heart, you know that it is in the best Hands. Often times we feel so alone during those moments of heart break. We feel like we don’t have anyone that we can confide in or trust with our most vulnerable situations. Know beyond a shadow of a doubt that the Lord is always there even if you feel like He is distant, the Word of God states in Hebrews 13:5 “Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” This is His assurance that during those instances of brokenness and heartache, He promises that He will never leave your side. All He wants us to do is be willing to turn to Him without any doubts knowing that He can and will get us through the agony caused by heartache!

He is your Heavenly Father and He knows exactly what you need in every situation in your life all you have to do is give Him a chance to show you that you can trust Him! Let Him repair your heart with His Absolute love; remember He is love 1John 4:7-8. Praise Him and worship Him fully surrendering yourself which in turn will redirect your focus on Him rather than your broken heart. You will be amazed at how therapeutic it is just being in the Lord’s presence, there is nothing that can compare! Don’t underestimate your value; you are worth a relationship that provides you with peace, love, and happiness. The fact that you are no longer in this situation is a key indicator that he or she was not worthy of your affection! It may be difficult at first considering the fact that it is still fresh but the more you keep your mind and heart on Christ, the easier it will be. Meditate on the His Word and lean on Him for comfort, healing, and restoration. When the time is right He will send you the perfect Queen or King who is deserving of your love!

Here is a list of scripture pertaining to heartache that you can meditate on:

·         Psalm 147:3

·         Psalm 34:18

·         2 Corinthians 12:9

·         Matthew 11:28-30

·         John 14:27

2. Get it all out: In order to get past an unpleasant break-up it is imperative that you get it all out. Keeping it bottled up inside will do nothing but prolong your healing process. Get into a quiet place where you cannot be distracted and cry until you can’t cry anymore. Letting go of those emotions make it manageable for you to begin to repair the damage that was done to you emotionally. Don’t be hesitant to let the tears flow, this is yours body’s natural process of getting rid of built up stress, tension and anxiety so let it go!

Another outlet you can use when attempting to let go of harbored feelings is to write them down. A lot of people don’t realize just how therapeutic writing really is. You can journal, write a poem, or just write out what you are feeling overall. It doesn’t matter how you do it as long as you get words down on a piece of paper which will in turn allow you to release them from being held inside. Write your progression beginning with day one up until the day that you feel you have completely recovered making sure to take note of your advancement. Putting your development down on paper is a constant reminder of just how far you have come. Don’t undervalue the power of what words can do and how beneficial they are to rebuilding yourself.

3. Know your self-worth: Who were you before the relationship began? Were you confident, self-assured and independently functioning on your own before you connected with this other person? Knowing your worth and recognizing that you are a diamond rare, unique, and hard to find and representing yourself as such makes it almost impossible to knock you down. The relationship might have taken a toll on you for a brief moment but because you know your value it will not keep you depressed for too long.

You have to make it your mission to:

·         Understand who you are

·         Know your qualities and what you bring to any relationship

·         Have the ability to be ok all by yourself

·         Have a high level of confidence, self-assurance, and self-esteem that nothing can break

By possessing these characteristics you will experience the pain of your heart break but it will not be as intense. People tend to miscalculate how important it is to remain confident through adversity. Don’t allow the break-up to make you feel so low about yourself that you begin to develop low self-esteem, doubt, and uncertainty about the person that you are. Be strong, be fierce, stand up for yourself, and most definitely don’t take any mess! 

If you struggle with the ability to be absolutely independent and self-sufficient before any partnership is developed it can create unhealthy emotional attachments. Being completely whole mentally, physically, spiritually, financially and emotionally is such a necessity prior, during, and after any relationship. If not, you can find yourself in a situation where the person that you were involved with filled a fundamental void in your life making it a challenge to fully recover. The reality is you aren’t in love with him or her, in actuality you are in love with what they provided you with.

For Instance:

·         They were financially secure when you struggled with balancing money.

·         They were confident within themselves and you don’t have an ounce of assurance in you.

·         They drove a fancy car and you don’t have one.

·         They took you out to expensive places and splurged on you when you don’t have the funds to do that on your own.

Don’t mistake quality characteristics for ones that don’t have any depth or substance. If you are independent and don’t need anyone to complete you, it will make it a little easier to heal from your heartbreak. I am not saying that it will not be challenging to entirely recuperate but when you know what your worth, you will not tolerate less than what you deserve. You were first class before you got involved with this person and you are going to be sensational afterward. Know that if he or she didn’t see your worth then they are the ones missing out on the amazing person that you are. Don’t spend another second unhappy and depressed. Let out all of the tears that you need to and then stand tall with your head held high and keep pressing on! 

4. Don’t rush into another relationship: A lot of times we are quick to want to hop from relationship to relationship without fully recovering first. What this will do is cause you to take unnecessary baggage into your new partnership. It isn’t fair for you to get involved with someone that you cannot give 100 % to. I know that you would want them available emotionally and mentally within the partnership and they deserve the same. It is crucial that you give yourself the time that you need to grieve, lament, and to get out all of those built up negative emotions that transpired due to the break-up. This will allow you to go into a new relationship with a clear head, a healed heart, and total stability. When you are not emotionally ready to get involved with someone new your judgment becomes clouded. It will be almost impossible to differentiate your feelings from the new connection versus the old one. You will also find it problematic to have the capacity to commit to someone because of your emotional detachment. It is so important that you give yourself the space and time that you need to become absolutely healed which will prevent you from getting with a person that is not right for you.

Another mistake that is often made is attaching yourself to another person based entirely off the fact that you “just don’t want to be alone.” This is most definitely a recipe for disaster. The partnership won’t stand a chance because it is grounded on a foundation that is incomplete. You are worth ensuring that you are entirely restored before even entertaining the thought of being with someone new. You want your next relationship to be successful and meaningful so don’t limit yourself by rushing into something that you are not ready for!