5 Ways To Battle Insecurities!

December 15, 2022 (updated)

Insecurities are some of the most lethal emotions to carry because of the long-term effects that they can have on your life. When you embrace self-doubt, indecisiveness, and uncertainty it will show up in everything that you do. You want to be so self-assured that when you walk into a room, you don’t even have to say a word because the confidence in knowing Who you belong to is written all over you.

It is all about the mindset that allows you to radiate boldness and certainty. If you are housing even the tiniest bits of insecurity it will prevent you from being the fierce person that you know you can be. Stand with your head held high even when you are faced with criticism or hateful words, they don’t deserve a place in your spirit so shake them off!

The enemy would love nothing more than to stop you from walking in the Purpose that God has for your life. So, he will plant those seeds of insecurity in your heart and mind until you begin to believe his lie as the truth. Remember he is a liar and the father of lies, John 8:44. Never let anyone or anything cause your light to dim; let it shine bright for all of those around you to see!

Let go of the past

Living your life in the past can come with all sorts of pain, especially if you had a rough upbringing. For example: you were bullied in school, your parents never showed you any love, or you may have grown up in a broken home. These are all examples of unfavorable conditions that can have a lasting effect on how you feel about yourself. It can cause you to feel apprehensive about the person that you are now.

When you are young you are very vulnerable and there are things that happen that stick with you as you grow older. Like those moments that you were teased in school about your weight, height, or even the clothes that you wore. Let’s face it, people can be very cruel and at times they don’t take someone else’s feelings into consideration when projecting hatred.

This can have a traumatic influence on how you perceive yourself today. The devil will take those feelings of doubt, uncertainty, and low self-esteem and multiply them. Before you know it, you will find yourself completely insecure regardless of who you are around or the situation you are in. The little bit of confidence that you once had is now non-existent.

Don’t let your past depict your future; you have to completely let that go and start brand new. You are not what people say that you are! You were created in His Image a beautiful masterpiece, know your Worth! Get yourself into the Word of God and find out just how much He truly loves you!

Don’t rely on other people’s approval

We all want to be accepted by our loved ones, friends, co-workers, and just society in general. It is ok to have that urge to want to fit in; most of us have experienced that same impulse at one point in our lives. The problem occurs when you start looking to others for the green light before you do anything significant or make any solid decisions. You should be looking to the Lord and the Lord only to guide you and lead you through His Spirit, John 16:13.

When you let other people influence your choices what it does is feed into the beginning stages of insecurity because now you are unsure of yourself and don’t know how to make concrete choices. Stand boldly and fearlessly behind your decisions despite what someone else might think of them. After all, you may just be the first person that has ever come up with that idea or vision but no one will know about it if you are too timid to share it.

Start by taking baby steps and demonstrating confidence and positive self-esteem around people that you trust. Then, slowly build up the courage to display that same poise in everything that you do regardless of who is around without hesitation. Before you know it your self-assurance will begin to develop tremendously but it all begins with you!

Avoid negative thoughts

When you allow nothing but negative thoughts to infiltrate your mind on a consistent basis, it will eventually have a direct impact on how you see yourself. Thoughts like: I am not good enough, I’m stupid, I am not worthy to be love, I am not attractive, and the list goes on and on. So what can we do to combat these emotions and feelings that tend to take control of how we think? The main way that you can overcome this critical thinking is with the Word of God.

Scripture is reassuring, It gives us hope when we are hopeless, and It exudes love. Some amazing scriptures to reflect on that will help with insecurities are:

Psalm 139:1 “O Lord, You have searched me and known me.”
Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
1 John 5:14 “Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us.”
Psalm 139:13-14 “For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.”
2 Corinthians 12:9 “And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
2 Timothy 1:7 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”

These are just some of the amazing verses that the Lord provides us with throughout the Scriptures. Have these engrained in your heart so deeply that they become part of your thought process. That way you have the proper tools in your arsenal to stand firm when the enemy shoots those harmful thoughts in your direction.

The Word of God is clear on the plans of the devil and that is to steal, kill, and destroy you, John 10:10. If he can make you so insecure that you are afraid to speak to people he knows that you won’t share the Gospel of Jesus Christ. He wants to silent your voice but he doesn’t deserve that power over you. Extinguish every adverse thought that comes your way before it begins to take root, 2 Corinthians 10:3-5!

Abstain from self-destruction

One of the main things that you always want to remember is that you have to love yourself, I mean wholeheartedly and unconditionally. If you are able to do that it will prevent you from wanting to do anything in your life that will promote self-sabotage. When you are insecure about the person that you are; you will begin to doubt your abilities, discredit your talents, and convince yourself that you are not valuable.

So how do we defeat the self-destruction? The way to have victory over your insecurity is by getting into the Word of God and renewing your mind, Romans 12:12. When you begin to renew your way of thinking, you can come against the fiery flames that the enemy is planting to mess with your thought process. His plan is to try to convince you that you aren’t who God says that you are. Once he does that he will cause you to doubt yourself, create hesitancy, and generate uncertainty.

You have to learn how to appreciate what you bring to the table, hold yourself to a high standard, and fully trust that the person that you are is more than enough. Speak words of life and not of death because the fact of the matter is life and death IS in the power of your tongue, Proverbs 18:21.

With that being said make it a mission to ensure that every thought and word that comes to your mind or is spoken remains constructive. Take care of your wants and needs and know that you deserve nothing less than the best, so don’t depreciate your value! You are valued by the Lord more than you will ever know!

Stay away from unhealthy relationships

If they are not for you, they are against you. That statement is so true, but usually we keep ourselves in those toxic relationships. What makes it so difficult to just break ties with the ones that are causing drama in our lives? The reasons vary depending on the type of connection in question: It could be that you are so used to the person you are with that you are scared of change, It could be that your friend that you’ve known for years always tells you what you want to hear, maybe it’s the boss that always has something negative to say that you are afraid to stand up to.

Whatever type of bond that you have with those in your life that is unhealthy, you must detach yourself from them quickly. If you don’t they will generate the beginning stages of insecurity before you even realize it. You cannot excel in environments where you are being constantly belittled, where you are frequently reminded of the mistakes that you made in your past, or where the person in authority never has anything nice to say about you.

We have to keep in mind that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, Ephesians 6:12. So the people that are causing these adverse emotions to develop in your spirit are being influenced by the enemy in one way or another. He will do whatever it takes to establish strongholds in your life and insecurity is one of them. Don’t underestimate his devices (2 Corinthians 2:11) he will use the ones closest to you the most to try to make you timid, fearful, and insecure.

So how do you fix those harmful attachments? The main thing that you want to do immediately is distance yourself from them or limit the amount of time that you spend with them. It is going to be challenging to say the least particularly if you’ve known them for a long period of time. You have to be selfish in this instance and ask yourself, “Do I really want to associate myself with people that are going to continue to bring me down?” The answer should always be no, you deserve so much better!

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